For those of you that may be new to my blog, I started out blogging on Yahoo! Shine when I was chosen to be part of their Beauty Guru program. I also do posts outside of my monthly assignments and I’ve been really fortunate enough to have a great relationship with the Fashion editor and have a lot of those posts picked to show on the Fashion and Beauty homepage as well as the Shine homepage. So last week I did a makeup tutorial on how to do a smokey eye and I posted it both on here and on Yahoo! I thought I did a pretty good job considering I do get compliments on my eye makeup and the editors must have thought so too, because it made the Editor’s Picks list. I’m stoked and after a few hours I sit down to read the comments people left.
Everyone hated it.
I’m not even exaggerating. I had to stop reading after the 9th comment because they were really brutal. I’m talking about I got things like “Ewww”, “Gross”, and “I can’t believe she’s a Beauty Guru” type of comments. I know that the audience on that blog can be very tough to please and for the most part my experience on there has been really good, with a few bad remarks here and there. But I never had 30+ comments that were really bad. What made it even worse was that the next day, the post made it to the Yahoo! Shine Home Page (I’m like, please shoot me now) so the comment number kept growing and honestly I just don’t have the heart to read every single one.
How do you recover when a blog post you thought was good gets such a poor reception? Your mind knows that when you put yourself out there you leave yourself open for both praise and criticism equally but when the latter happens, it isn’t that easy to take. I felt pretty bad that day and felt that the blogging rep I spent the past two years building on that site is just ruined. Even now as I’m typing this I still feel a bit upset about it but I know there are lessons to be learned and these are some I can think of so far.
Nobody’s Perfect, Not Even You
Yeah, I know the obvious but when you go through something like this it’s easy to forget. We aren’t perfect and we won’t nail every single post we do. And you know that’s a good thing because if we did, then there’s no room to grow and no sense of accomplishment when we do overcome a major hurdle. Everybody has an off day and the great thing about tomorrows is that it’s an opportunity to start over again!
Go Back and Read Your Superstar Posts
Just because you had an off day doesn’t mean you are a horrible blogger (even if your emotions tell you so!). I remember during an IFB chat they suggested that when you receive a bad comment, go back an read five positive ones. Trust me that really does work! I went back to blog posts like this one and this one. Reading all the love I received in comments helped cheer me up!
It’s An Opportunity to Seek Improvement
True you will not see the validity in any type of negative feedback when you’re caught up in the moment. At first I wanted to tell them all where to go (and how to get there!), but that’s the anger talking. When those feelings subside, it’s time to go back and see if there is anything positive you can take away from them. When you take away all the rudeness you can sometimes find some constructive criticism in there. I learned that my smokey eye needs some work. I need to learn how to blend colors better, use eyeshadows that aren’t so sparkly, and seek out other tutorials to improve my technique. I know next time to come better when it comes to that.
Times Like This Show How Brave You Are
It’s very easy to sit behind a computer screen and be super critical (or even downright rude). However, it takes a lot of courage and perseverance to do what we bloggers do. We put ourselves out there every single day for the entire world to see. We leave ourselves open and vulnerable to all of the greatness as well as the nastiness the Internet world has to offer. We take a chance with our craft and trust me there aren’t many people who can do that (especially those rude commenters!)
Have you ever had a post that was wasn’t well received? How did you handle it?