The amazing ladies of this blogosphere never cease to amaze me! I’ve read some amazing posts last week that (once again!) have simply inspired me and got the wheels in my head turning. Participating in Beautifully Invisible’s posts We Are Women. We Are Beautiful. We Are Real Part 1 and 2 made me think about what it means to be a real woman. In Vahni’s Intro to the LALM round up this week she talked about how she couldn’t stand all the “fame-whoring and big-noting going on in the fashion blogosphere (and Twitterverse)” (I just couldn’t explain it any better than that!). I read this post from Kate, called I Want Pretty Pictures: To DSLR or Not which I felt not only applied to cameras but to anything related to fashion blogging.
When I thought about what it meant to be a real woman, one thing I learned fairly recently that it means going after what you personally want instead of what everyone else has. My twenties were spent chasing everything that was outside of me instead of listening to what my heart really wanted. Now that I’m approaching 30, I’m tuning in now and finally finding my direction in life.
Blogs often start as affairs of the heart, something that you just had to let out of yourself that just couldn’t be contained anymore. You are overwhelmed with ideas and creativity and you are just soo in love with your blog because it’s yours. Once you’re firmly on your blogging feet, you start getting on twitter and sites like IFB and soon you are discovering the blogging community. You realize rather quickly who the big names are, what events are really jumping off, and who the big brands are sponsoring. A little Blogger Jealousy may sink in and then once you’re over that, you’re saying to yourself, “I want to be just like X and I’m going to do Y right this second!” Maybe you start spending money you may not have just to make sure you are rocking every single trend and drop major bread on a camera, thinking that you will instantly have gorgeous and amazing pictures. You want to work with major brands, and maybe you snag one. All of a sudden you may feel you are on top and the line between sharing great news and fame-whoring, like Vahni put it, gets really blurred.
It’s so easy to fall into that trap and the longer you’re in the game, it becomes easy to lose that very thing that started your blog in the first place – you! You’re so busy trying to keep up with everyone else that you forget what your heart told you to blog about. You’re chasing everything outside of you and trust me, it will not make you happy, nor successful. No amount of sample freebies is going to keep those envious thoughts away. No event is ever going to make you feel like you made it.
Just stop yourself for a minute and go back to the day you decided to start blogging. What was it that your heart wanted? Where did you want to take your writing? Is the blog you have now a reflection of you, or everyone else?
Your compass should not be dictated by what others around you are doing. Your blog’s direction and focus is inside you. It’s inside your passion. It’s inside your heart. If you’re ultimate dream is to blog professionally, then yes, it makes sense to buy that camera because, like Kate pointed out, you will continue to have that passion you need to learn how to use it. If you want to one day work for a major brand, then go out to those events because you’re not there to brag about it, you’re there to network and get yourself seen. If your blog is just your creative outlet from a day job you love, then attending Fashion Week or spending money on a fancy camera isn’t necessary and you won’t care about not doing either!
When you start doing what you love, true success that is meant for you will follow, keeping you gracious and humble along the way. I may not have the biggest blog on the block, but I feel successful every day. I’ve met and befriended some of the most amazing people, had opportunities that I wasn’t even looking for find me, and discovered new things about myself just because I’m following what really and truly makes me happy.
So there’s no need to keep up with the Blogging Joneses. The only thing you have to keep up with is your passion. Everything else will fall into place!
I really want to hear from you! How to you keep your blog true to you and not to everyone else?
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